Is it okay to have a friend that is the opposite sex?
I ask this because, I had friends of the male gender, and needless to say they are no longer my friends. The reason being is that their significant other felt threatened by me. Now we did nothing inappropriate, in fact I knew the guys, in most cases, before they even met their significant other. If we were going to be together, or do anything inappropriate, I think it would have happened prior to their girlfriend entering the picture.
I think the major issue here is trust. Whether it be trust because the male friend did something previously, nothing to do with me, that made their girlfriend not trust them, or the girlfriend did something and now they think that their boyfriend is going to do something. Guilty conscience, and or, no one did anything and it's just down right jealousy. So there I am with a note from a “friend” saying “yeah um I can’t be your friend any more because my girlfriend feels threatened by you" or I just no longer hear from my friend ever again, vanished, gone without a trace. I then, at that point respect the girlfriend's wishes, and never speak to my so called friend again.
I am easy to talk to, I love to listen to people when they need it. They can come to me because I do not judge. Sometimes people just need an non-biased opinion. I am a very open minded person and I like to listen to people talk. Maybe that’s why I have not ventured out of the customer service field. I like to consider myself an un-paid psychiatrist.
Perhaps I care too much? Maybe I shouldn’t take in to consideration other people’s feelings? Maybe I shouldn’t want to help people with their problems? No I will continue to do that and I will continue to be where I think I need to be so people can have an outlet of what they need to talk about, and if your significant other cannot handle the fact that you talk to me, well then I guess maybe we shouldn’t be friends. I do not want to be the reason that your relationship does not work out, even though there are probably more darker reasons that I.
I no longer confide in anyone, but I at least want people to know that there is someone out there that they can confide in. I consider myself a very kick ass friend and the best friend anyone could have.
Glad to get that out! Thank you all for putting up with these types of posts when they happen.